Child lovers offer the most genuine love to children. They are not the same as a parent with a child, they are not always idealised. They are certainly not the same as a mother and father who see each other daily. That is another type of love.

If love is a state you experience with yourself, in others and with others, then it is necessary to develop one's own personal style of love. And the way is clear that it is not possible to develop a love life with someone who is not you. It is not possible to develop a person, a persona, or a personality for someone else as though it is a gift to that person from God.

The Christian concept of personal love is quite a different matter. Personal love has two sides; it is a loving of oneself, of the self and of others. It is a love of the self with the other. It is the heart's love of self for another. It is a loving of an individual to another and that love will be given freely to both. The two sides of love are often confused at first sight and the meaning,