1. So what I am understanding is that all pedophiles are sexually attracted to children as a whole and that attraction is NOT designated predominantly to male children or female children? I am asking for clarification because we need to be clear on what “sexual orientation” is. The word “orientation” as used in this context is not open to interpretation. It is widely misused in conversations and writings about sexuality. Your sexual orientation is strictly gender based. Period. That can also incude asexuality which is a lack of sexual attraction to either gender.
2. I have read quite a few posts by “non-offenders” and when they start specifying their attraction, it is usually gender specific, such as young males or prepubescent females. This would indicate that they have a sexual orientation that is gender specific. Anything beyond that falls into the “preference” category. Some men like older women/men, blonde women/men, dark women/men, tall women/men. Preference is a CHOICE. That is why it feels better to tell yourself it is orientation. That way you can convince yourself that you have no control over it. The thing I think you all fail to consider is if the preference is due to something that is ingrained in your psyche or subconscious, you may not have control over it until you discover what it stems from.
3. The PREFERENCE for children is not an orientation. It is a disorder and disorders CAN be treated. Stating unequivocally that it is something that cannot be treated and will never change is a denial of epic proportions. There is a reason for the preference. There always is. The unwillingness to recognize this and seek answers as to the source of this heinous and devious preference is what makes you truly dangerous. There is a reason why the child’s innocence, purity, helplessness, or other factor appeals as a sexual manifestation.
4. The self gratifying acceptance of deviance and seeking of public approval for your depraved thoughts simply because they have not been acted upon is unconscionable. The problem here is not the rest of society. There is nothing here to be open minded about. The fact that your fantasies create an altered reality where children are able to consent to you, if that’s even true, does not make it any more acceptable or normal. It actually makes it worse. Because in the world you have created for yourself, the children that you want, want you back. So you would take an illegal and immoral act and make it normal and acceptable behavior in your head, thereby giving positive reinforcement to your own disorder and concluding that society is the one with the problem that needs to be fixed.
5. I have not seen one truly compelling or logical explanation of why this should be recognized, accepted, or advocated. I am not a survivor or victim of child sexual abuse so I have no thoughts or feelings to project onto anyone so you cannot fall back on that default dismissal of my words. Even still, you will be dismissive nonetheless. I have already seen this play out many times. My comments will be cast aside as meaningless because I obviously don’t really understand pedophilia at all and you will have once again rationalized for yourself why you are justified in embracing your disorder.
6. Do not accept your own complacency and do not expect or ask anyone else to. It’s not going to happen.