1. Ever been in a Target dressing room?
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4. Ever wonder why they hired a MAN (obvi) to install the rotisserie chicken lighting and circus mirrors? Ever wonder how you might hack into the company directory and find this jackass so you can hunt him down personally hand him your bottle of tears?
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6. Then this post is for you.
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8. First, a word from Esther and Jerry Hicks:
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10. You have the ability to direct your own thoughts; you have the option of observing things as they are, or of imagining them as you want them to be, and whatever option you choose, whether you are imagining or observing, is equally powerful.
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12. You have the option of remembering something as it actually occurred or imagining it as you would prefer.
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14. You have the option of remembering something that pleased you or remembering something that did not please you.
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16. You have the option of anticipating something that you want or anticipating something you do not want.
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18. In every case your thoughts produce a vibration within you that equals your point of attraction, and then circumstances and events line up to match the vibrations that you have offered.
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20. Okay - so what happens when you are triggered by something hurtful/ disappointing/scary and you can't stop obsessing about it? Are you totally jacking up your vibe?
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22. My short answer is: No...(but with a caveat).
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24. There is "lag-time" for manifestation and, in my experience, the Universe responds to our collective vibration, not just a bad day or bad week.
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26. First of all, higher-vibration feelings like love, gratitude, bliss, and contentment have a stronger frequency and therefore are powerful change-agents. Lower-vibration feelings like disappointment, fear, and anger have a fractured frequency, making the manifestation into physical reality more difficult. So that's the good news. And that's why we say "Love wins" because, it surely and truly can, when given the chance.
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28. But you, oh conscious, beautiful Being, must CHOOSE powerfully where you are going to put your focus. This doesn't mean that you should first change your feelings in order to emotionally bypass your situation - but it does mean that you take the baby step of IMAGINING your scenario in the way that you would want it to be in reality for you, in order to source higher-vibration feelings.
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30. The subconscious mind does not know the difference between what is happening in reality and what is imagined (this is why mediation and positive daydreaming are such powerful healers). When you imagine something wonderful happening like, having a successful sales day, sharing dinner with your soulmate, living in your favorite city, driving your new black-on-white Rover, your brain makes a chemical cocktail in response to those feelings and sends it down your spinal cord, and the rest of your body reacts to this endorsement from your brain. This is part of what scientifically changes your vibration.
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32. Your brain also "fires and wires" new synaptic connections to create neural pathways and neighborhoods so that you have a default setting to return to when you start thinking about your partner, job, finances, etc. This also works for mothers-in-law, said Target dressing rooms, and exes - so be careful!
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34. Remember this:
35. Thoughts = The electric charge that goes out into the quantum field.
36. Feelings = The magnetic charge that draws in from the quantum field.
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38. REAL WORLD EXAMPLE.
39. You have been irritated by your partner's lack of help around the house. Workout clothes and towels are littering the hallway like spawning salmon; dispossessed plates languish in the sink. You used to say something, but then he'd do it just because you were nagging, a role you hate. And now you're trying to be more "understanding" because What Would Marianne Williamson Do. He has been working doubles since the temp quit and, after all, you guys have a cleaning lady. So you don't say anything. And now it's Saturday morning and even though you're working full time too, he's kickin it on the couch watching DVR'd Knicks and you're cleaning up, BECAUSE OBVIOUSLY THIS PLACE WON'T CLEAN ITSELF UP. Then honey wants to get romantic that night, and you basically just "phone it in" out of obligation because you've turned him down twice this week. Is it your fault that wet towels on the floor paralyze your libido??
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41. Uh-oh. You've now entered Boring Sexville with you as the mayor, all because you focussed on negative feelings, harbored resentment, and wouldn't speak up. To make matters worse, he's now acting aloof and frustrated, triggering you further. And that state begins the pernicious downward decent into Evil Clown Basement where all your wounds from past relationships with men are synthesized into one syncopated shit show with Christopher Walken doing the voice over.
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43. Girl, get a hold of yourself.
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45. Want my "Get Unstuck" recipe for when you are really triggered? I wrote a prescription:
46. Yes, help me hightail it outta the basement (http://blissbombed.com/?p=4267)
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48. To your freedom.